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About A Life After Loss

I lost my son in 2013. I lost a lot that day, but I never lost it all. I still have hope, albeit it wavers sometimes. I still have my love of writing, and I still have my humor. Let's learn how to do this grief thing right.

The day before Thanksgiving, we crammed our car full of belongings and began our trip down south to visit the family. We were ears deep in holiday traffic when my cell phone rang. I recognized the phone number right away. … Continue reading →

Posted on December 10, 2013 by A Life After Loss | Leave a comment

When Everything is Nowhere

Posted on November 21, 2013 by A Life After Loss

When I was little, I had an occasional babysitter who was also a religious zealot. She had a bratty daughter about my age who embodied zero Christian qualities. The babysitter would sit me down and play recordings of religious figures … Continue reading →

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Why it’s Good to Be a Bad Parent Sometimes

Posted on November 12, 2013 by A Life After Loss

Before my son died, I was a schedule nazi. My daughter awoke hourly at night when she was a baby, and getting a schedule together (as well as money spent on a sleep consultant) made me into a drill sergeant … Continue reading →

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Eyes

Posted on October 29, 2013 by A Life After Loss

When I started this blog, I told myself I would write once a week. It is immensely therapeutic and it forces me to do something I enjoy, which is write. I missed two weeks in a row. Well, that’s not … Continue reading →

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Going Back Home

Posted on October 9, 2013 by A Life After Loss

My mother just turned 70 (apologies to my mother for putting that online). She had indicated she wanted to have a birthday party. She hasn’t had a real party in….I don’t even know how long. If you’ve made it to … Continue reading →

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Benefits

Posted on October 2, 2013 by A Life After Loss

The proper protocol at work after losing a child is to notify HR within 30 days and remove them from your health insurance policy. A few months after Jay died, I went on my company’s intranet and looked up how … Continue reading →

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The Memorial

Posted on September 23, 2013 by A Life After Loss

Last week we went to a memorial held by the Children’s Hospital. All of the families who had lost a child in the last year were invited. We received the invitation months ago and I anxiously anticipated the day we … Continue reading →

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A Trip

Posted on September 12, 2013 by A Life After Loss

I just got back from a business trip. I used to like these things. The subject manner is usually mind-numbing, but I love my coworkers and it used to be a chance for me to get out of the day … Continue reading →

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One of the best things about modern technology is the ability to track your entire life via photography on your camera phone. Take a tour through your iPhone’s camera roll and see everything you’ve done in the last several months, … Continue reading →

Posted on September 4, 2013 by A Life After Loss | Leave a comment

Drowning

Posted on August 28, 2013 by A Life After Loss

I am not doing well. I don’t know how else to put it. Last week I was talking about that feeling of utter horror that arrives when it arrives, and after that it decided to pay me an extended visit. … Continue reading →

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