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About A Life After Loss

I lost my son in 2013. I lost a lot that day, but I never lost it all. I still have hope, albeit it wavers sometimes. I still have my love of writing, and I still have my humor. Let's learn how to do this grief thing right.

A Few Questions For The Pros

Posted on August 31, 2015 by A Life After Loss

That’s right, this is for the pros; the people who lost kids a few years ago, maybe even 30 years ago. You’ve gotten pretty good at the whole grief thing. You go on vacations. You go out to restaurants and … Continue reading →

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This is For You, Newbie

Posted on June 5, 2015 by A Life After Loss

Someone commented on my blog yesterday who lost their 2 year old only 2 months ago. They are also 30 weeks pregnant. I was at my daughter’s school and she was begging me to stop looking at my phone and … Continue reading →

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Why Gardening is Important

Posted on May 12, 2015 by A Life After Loss

It was 2010, and my husband, daughter and I had just moved into our home. The home was spectacular, and one of my favorite places was the garden. My husband and I would get into the hot tub (a hot … Continue reading →

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Vaccuum

Posted on May 6, 2015 by A Life After Loss

One of the scary side effects of PTSD is having these “trigger moments” that will destroy your day, week, month. Last night’s trigger moment: Watching Interstellar. I’m not going to spoil it for you if you haven’t seen it, but if you’ve … Continue reading →

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The Great Wean Of 2015

Posted on April 6, 2015 by A Life After Loss

I walked up to the nursing station in the pediatric ICU and leaned against the counter. The nurse peered over her computer monitor at me. “I need to use a breast pump,” I said. This was probably the third time … Continue reading →

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Happy Thanksgiving

Posted on March 23, 2015 by A Life After Loss

Jay used to wake up at 6am on the dot every morning. I would bring him into bed with us to nurse and catch another 5-10 minutes of sleep. I always hoped he would nurse and then fall asleep for awhile … Continue reading →

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108 Saturdays

Posted on March 9, 2015 by A Life After Loss

107 Saturdays ago, I was at my mom’s house. I was tired. I was semi looking forward to going back home already. It was lunchtime. I listened to my daughter play in the living room with my husband while I … Continue reading →

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Finding a Good Weaver

Posted on February 6, 2015 by A Life After Loss

For your first pregnancy, I highly recommend getting pregnant at the exact same time as one of your very best friends in the world. Nothing is better than becoming a mother with someone who knew you from before your entire … Continue reading →

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The Real Ever After

Posted on November 13, 2014 by A Life After Loss

It’s been almost 2 years since my son died. We have a 9 month old baby. My daughter has started Kindergarten. I feel like this is the image people see that are on the outskirts of my life. I hate … Continue reading →

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A Repeat of Love

Posted on September 29, 2014 by A Life After Loss

A friend recently pointed me to another blog written by a woman who lost a child. The blog discussed the weird questions you field when you’re pregnant again after experiencing that loss. Well-meaning folks want to make sure you aren’t … Continue reading →

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