Tag Archives: child loss

The Visible String

Once we lost Jay, my first priority was to do everything I could do make sure my daughter was OK. I called a psychologist I knew and had a phone consult. She had me write down a list of things … Continue reading

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Diet God

When your child is brain dead and you decide to donate their organs, there comes an actual moment when you walk away from them forever. They’re in the hospital bed, breathing (with assistance of a machine), heart beating (on it’s … Continue reading

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108 Saturdays

107 Saturdays ago, I was at my mom’s house. I was tired. I was semi looking forward to going back home already. It was lunchtime. I listened to my daughter play in the living room with my husband while I … Continue reading

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I have been missing Jay a ton lately. At first it just seemed like the grief pendulum was simply swinging back and hitting me particularly hard. I started bringing him up in conversation more with my husband and friends. I … Continue reading

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Safe Travels

This past weekend we flew to Vancouver, BC to visit relatives. I had never been there before and it had been a few months since we went anywhere, so off we went. Traveling is not easy for me these days. … Continue reading

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The Pendulum

Last week I had several pretty good days. Some friends came into town that I hadn’t seen in a few years. It’s therapeutic for me, and for anyone I think, to spend time with people who have known you forever. … Continue reading

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