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About A Life After Loss

I lost my son in 2013. I lost a lot that day, but I never lost it all. I still have hope, albeit it wavers sometimes. I still have my love of writing, and I still have my humor. Let's learn how to do this grief thing right.

Mama

Posted on September 4, 2014 by A Life After Loss

I went down to my mom’s a couple of weeks ago. This wasn’t a normal visit. My mom’s cancer was getting the better of her and she was about to go on hospice. She took one last chemo treatment just … Continue reading →

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Letters

Posted on July 16, 2014 by A Life After Loss

When we had Floyd, many friends sent heartfelt baby gifts before and right after his arrival. These gifts were particularly meaningful because all of these well-wishers knew what we had gone through. Each package that arrived in the mail came … Continue reading →

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Better

Posted on July 8, 2014 by A Life After Loss

A few months after Jay died, people started asking me if things were better. If they were too nervous to ask me, they asked our friends. The answer I and everyone else gave was no. I hoped that after a … Continue reading →

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Rip/Sew

Posted on June 11, 2014 by A Life After Loss

I have been missing Jay a ton lately. At first it just seemed like the grief pendulum was simply swinging back and hitting me particularly hard. I started bringing him up in conversation more with my husband and friends. I … Continue reading →

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Happy

Posted on May 31, 2014 by A Life After Loss

A few weeks ago my daughter was in her first school play. It took place outside, every student sewed their own costumes and I nearly disintegrated with pride as my sweet little girl looked right at the audience and recited … Continue reading →

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Grief is like a noose. When I don’t write, it gets tighter and tighter. It’s slow, like a sneaky python, and I don’t realize how much I need to write until I notice that I’ve been writing in my head … Continue reading →

Posted on April 30, 2014 by A Life After Loss | 1 Comment

Baby

Posted on March 14, 2014 by A Life After Loss

Apologies for slacking on the blog (as if anyone was really freaked over that), but the extraordinary sleep deprivation does not get easier with each subsequent kid, probably because you get older and older as you have them. I don’t … Continue reading →

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Crazy

Posted on January 16, 2014 by A Life After Loss

Immediately after learning I was pregnant, my husband and I shared an awkward “What have we just done” hug and I had to head to a dentist appointment. My head was reeling. I walked in to the office and the … Continue reading →

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What We Did

Posted on January 6, 2014 by A Life After Loss

My husband, daughter and I sat in the kitchen eating one day a few weeks after my son died. I can’t tell you the date; all I know is it was deep in the sea of shock and horror and … Continue reading →

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This is just a crappy blog post. I wrote another one but I’m not ready to post it. I have a lot of those posts lurking in my Drafts folder. But whenever I write something I’m not ready to publish, … Continue reading →

Posted on December 30, 2013 by A Life After Loss | Leave a comment